Are you stuck in flight mode?
A.K.A. Chase — the dog
Chasing your own tale
I see a lot of very stressed, anxious, and overwhelmed women at OOMPH.
And, when they’re telling me their ‘story’, they do so at a mile-a-minute; only stopping to literally ‘gasp’ for air between paragraphs. They’re struggling to keep up with life due to all the demands that have been placed on them. (Kids, careers, aging parents.) And, in effect, they are living in a perpetual state of psychological stress — ‘Fight or Flight’.
A previous blog-post that I’ve written on: Chronic stress
Once I’ve listened to these women, and I’ve finally calmed them down with a nip of Kava & Mexican Valerian — I often respond with a wee story of my own…
We women are the natural 'looker-after-ers' in society.
Some twenty-odd years ago, my brother and I were moutain-biking in Kinleigh Forest in Lichfield. (Lichfield is a rural settlement in the south of the Waikato region). The mountain bike park there is huge, remote, and the trails go on, seemingly, forever. (It is an intimidating terrain.)
While we were biking deep in the forest, a sheep dog suddenly whooshed by — overtaking us! We slowed our bikes down and moved aside, thinking the dog’s owner would also soon follow. But this didn’t occur. While it was concerning, there was little we could do as the dog had disappeared into the distance. So we simply continued making our way through the forest.
Around thirty minutes later, the same dog went careering by us once more! (Again, with no owner in tow.)
When later we came across some people in the forest, we enquired about the dog. They said they’d seen it — but had no idea who owned it as they hadn’t seen anyone else except for us.
When we returned to the carpark we came across another group of people, who had also seen the dog — and not just that day, but while they were biking there the day before!
There were no other cars in the carpark but ours, theirs, and the previous folks we had spoken to. We realised then that this poor dog had been abandoned and that he must have been ‘running scared’ 😢
Note: He would have been so very stressed, anxious and overwhelmed.
Just at that moment of realisation, we spotted the dog slowly moving about in the brush adjacent to the carpark. It was as if he was spying on us.
My brother (Mark) didn’t need any more information before taking action. He is quite burly, but also a super softy, and so he walked confidently over to the dog, and easily managed to catch him and pick him up. At this point, the dog fell limp into his arms. Mark carried him back to his station wagon and lay him down in the back and off we set. And thus this poor pooch slept the whole way back to his new home — a farm in Cambridge 🤩
I can’t remember who named, “Chase” — I think it was my mother? However, it was truly fitting; it suited him well.
Note: This gentle, loving, and clearly grateful creature lived with my brother until he was old & grey. He passed away a few years ago.
The 2018 Women’s Health Survey1 spoke to 15,000 women from across Australia and discovered:
66.9% of women
Felt nervous, anxious or on edge on several days or more in the last four weeks.
46.1% of women
Reported that a Doctor or a Psychologist had diagnosed them with depression or anxiety.
34.3% OF WOmen
Reported that they didn’t get time to themselves on a weekly basis.
Note: We’re usually pretty much on a par with the Aussies.
What are you "Chasing"?
Stop and just catch your breath.
You need to surrender. You've got to change your story.
You don’t just keep going-and-going if you’re feeling lost & scared out in the ‘wilderness’.
This will only make you feel more isolated, alone, terrified and exhausted.
If you’re not getting anywhere on your own, then it makes no sense to continue with this strategy. You need to draw someone’s attention to your situation. And you need to STOP and be willing to accept help.
Might I recommend that you let someone capable take care of you for a change…?!2 ❤️🙌
Once you’ve rested, you’ll find that you’re in a much better place to live your life from.
Note: Obviously, coming to see your big, strong Naturopath was a very wise move indeed 😉
Ideally we should be able to look after ourselves...
But, unfortunately this is easier said than done.
We know we need to take better care of ourselves. However, in order to be able to do this, we need to have the time, space and the inclination to do so — currently many of us are too stressed and tired to even fathom how to go about doing this.
And let’s be realistic for a moment, shall we? To tell a woman that she should really ‘look after yourself’, well, that just creates ANOTHER bloody person for her to look after!
The answer is that everyone needs to be taken care of — including us ‘women-folk’.
A woman really needs somebody to enable her to do the things she needs to do to support her physical, mental and emotional health.
Note: We really need more organisations that support mothers, in particular, to get time-away from all of their duties. Unfortunately, when I talk to some of my clients, their friends & families are not in a position to give each other a break from the current reality that is the 21st century way of life.
It's okay to receive help (back) from our man, significant other — or whoever. This doesn't make us weak. It makes us worthy.
In my next blog-post
In this blog-post, I discussed the stressors that are creating anxiety for these women, as well as the obvious — and necessary — lifestyle change that needs to occur.
In my next blog-post I’ll be discussing anxiety in more depth — what is actually going on physiologically, and what dietary supplementation can be used to provide relief.
Naturopathy works best when you support yourself from all angles. This is why we call it holistic health-care.